September 20, 2007

Marriage, what a crock...

After today, I don't know if I ever want to get married. I have seen WAY too many people's marriages fall apart after only a couple years, including some family members. We all have this idealistic view of the perfect spouse and the perfect life, but that is a giant pile of shit. The truth is that you'll probably only get married because you want to feel loved and you'll be worried that this is your best chance of a happy life. You'll resent your spouse because they aren't the perfect person you want them to be, they'll resent you for not understanding/not loving them/not being perfect yourself. You'll trudge through years of marriage, and probably some kids, then after 4 or 5 years you'll realize it was a huge mistake and you'll want out.

"It all seems so perfect. You've dated for months or even years. You've shared both the good times and the bad times. You've endured commitment. You love each other unconditionally. Marriage seems like the only logical next step right? After all, it was meant to be...

The next thing you know, you're a bitter, romantically deprived, sexless, emotional disaster. That ring on your finger feels like a garrote around your neck. You feel as though you've been herded into mental slavery. You think back to your wedding day and that walk down the isle doesn't seem so pristine anymore. In fact, it feels as though that walk was like that of a deathrow inmate on his way down the prison corridor for the last time. That's right. Your married and half the time you're wishing you were dead , the other half wishing it was your spouse. What happened to all the rhetoric about the everlasting bond and life-long joy of married life?

The greatest myth ever to deceive humanity is the myth of marriage. We've all been duped into believing that marriage is the end-all remedy to our loneliness; that tying the knot is a mandatory function we all must seek during our brief tenure on earth. Wake up people! It's time to face the chilling reality. Marriage isn't a cure for our want of companionship, it's the disease of imprisonment. You'll be pleading to be euthanized in no time at all as millions upon millions have already found out. Look at the marriage world around you. Divorce is at an all-time high and while the "experts" toil over the tedious statistics, trying to psycho-analyze and negotiate a solution to the crisis, those of us who've been to hell and back are frantically trying to warn the oh-so-envied singles of the impending doom that awaits them if they elect to tie the, the knot." (link)

"Marriage is like putting your hand into a bag of snakes in the hope of pulling out an eel."
Leonardo Di Vinci

1 comment:

nicolle said...

amen. amen. a million times, amen.

i know there's no way i can look someone straight in the eye and say i want them as my romantic partner forever. so...i have no plans of marrying.

i think if more people thought of marriage in those terms, seriously telling someone FOREVER, they'd think twice, three times, fifty times. and, less would go through with it...except for the REALLY monogamous, the REALLY easily satisfied, or the REALLY stupid.

kick me if i sound too cynical. but, i've also seen way too many marriages fall apart for such simple reasons.

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